Thinking Of Divorce? Part I

No marriage problem is too large that it cannot be healed.This includes healing from lack of communication, arguments over financial difficulties, neglect, verbal abuse, addiction to alcohol or pornography, and extra- marital affairs. (This is in no way intended to imply that a spouse should stay in a physically abusive or life-threatening situation. Though even an abusive spouse can be healed if he or she is willing, there are times when distance is required for safety of spouse and/or children until they are willing, if ever.) However, what do you do when only one spouse is eager to work towards reconciliation, and the other is unwilling? The natural response to such a frustrating situation is to say, "I give up!

Let's face it, when a husband or wife who is supposed to love you directs this type of rejection your way, it is easy to take it very personally and think, "What's the use in trying to change his mind? I can't make him love me!" No, you can't make your spouse love you, but if your life partner ever really did love you, true love does not easily diminish. Sure it may be hidden and blocked by jealousy, resentment, sin, neglect or lust, but if your marriage is worth fighting for, and it should be, then your job can be to help remove any road blocks which may be hindering your spouse from seeing clearly. It is at this stage that many couples give up on marriage, the main reasons being pride and an unwillingness to sweat a little. However, if you think that giving up and abandoning the marriage will be your instant salvation from further heartbreak, guess again. It is easier to repair what is broken, then to replace a precious commodity.

All things are possible with God. If He can raise the dead, heal the sick, part the seas, and make water in to wine, then surely our Heavenly Father can heal a wounded marriage. Today, if you are feeling defeated, and think there is no way out, call out to God, and rest your troubles in His capable hands, because, with God, there is always a way!

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Contributed by Melanie Schurr (Copyright (c)2003 Melanie Schurr) Melanie Schurr is author of "Ecstatic Living Ecstatic Loving: How to have more peace and joy in marriage, and life in general by walking in harmony with God," and "Son Salutations: A refreshing collection of modern inspirations for those who seek God each day." For more information, visit her web page at www.angelfire.com/mi/melschurr