Thinking Of Divorce? Part II

During such a turbulent time when one is seriously entertaining thoughts of divorce, emotions are justly very high. Great caution is required because you need to make certain you are not acting on impulse or by pure emotion.Take time to step back from the turmoil and see the situation from the perspective of an unbiased third party, as well as from the view point of God. Now is a good time to think of the familiar saying of, "What would Jesus do?" It is extremely important to consider your marriage in a rational and practical light, pondering such realities as:

How will this affect the children?

How much time do we already have invested?

Do I still love this man/woman?

Would I feel a loss if he/she were not in my life?

Do his/her good points outweigh the one or two issuesthat are dividing us?

Is the issue serious enough to consider divorce, or do I need to readjust my priorities?

This may surprise you, but there are people who feel dissatisfaction in their marriage because they are boothered by their spouse's appearance, they are sexually discontent, the couple may be constantly arguing over finances, or communication may be greatly lacking. Such issues may be irritations, but they are not legitimate reason for divorce. With a little care, and perhaps even some professional outsideintervention as a financial planner, therapist or marriage counselor, you will better be able to understand the reason for these irritations, and how to overcome them in a way that is mutually agreeable to both husband and wife. In some cases you may be surprised to learn that the problem was not your spouse or the quality of your marriage, but your own unhealthy mind-set. It is easy to blame one's spouse for a less than suitable marriage, but it is often difficult to take a good, hard, honest look at ourself to see why such things as money, outward appearance, or physical gratification is greater than love. Love IS the greatest power, and when husband and wife place God at the head of their life, all things are possible.

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Contributed by Melanie Schurr (Copyright (c)2003 Melanie Schurr) Melanie Schurr is author of "Ecstatic Living Ecstatic Loving: How to have more peace and joy in marriage, and life in general by walking in harmony with God," and "Son Salutations: A refreshing collection of modern inspirations for those who seek God each day." For more information, visit her web page at www.angelfire.com/mi/melschurr