Surrendering To Marriage

If one listens closely to the major complaints in marriage, both husbands and wives most often complain of dissatisfaction with level of communication, (which includes talks on financial difficulties), intimacy, and romance.Un-addressed, these issues can fester into a cancerous wound, but carefully and lovingly mended by the act of surrendering, awhole new stage in marriage can be possible!

Marital surrender stems from godly surrender. In other words, just as we make a personal decision when we become a Christian to yield to righteousness and reject sin, surrender in marriage is yielding to the knowledge that there will be no other lover in our life, and thus, we are willing to make it work at all cost.

Today, modern culture often dictates that if it's broken, don't fix it, toss it out! I'm not so ancient, but I do remember a time when people actually took their old shoes to a cobbler to get new soles when they were beginning to show signs of wear. Today, we just toss out the worn ones, and start fresh. Our food comes prepared in much the same way; convenient and easily disposable.

Modern technology has its advantages, but if you are wondering why divorce rates are sky rocketing, ponder a society that is no longer taught to appreciate good work ethics, the importance of character, and being a man or woman of good virtue. When marriage gets a little bumpy, our first inclination is to panic and throw it all away, rather than to take the time, emotion and energy to bring it to its fullest potential.

Making a conscious decision to surrender to marriage is pleasantly freeing because it takes the pressure off us since there is only one choice when times get tough, and that is, to make it work. This philosophy was commonly practiced by our earlier ancestors, and it is the reason why couples celebrated their silver and golden anniversaries. Divorce was simply not an acceptable option, so husband and wife had no choice but to make it work via compromise, being more sensitive to the other persons needs, and dealing with controversy in a very strategic way.

The wisest strategy in marriage we can have is to surrender to God, placing Him as number one in our life, then by surrendering to marriage. Surrender is not giving up, but placing our very life in the loving and capable hands of our Creator who is the very essence of love. What better place for a marriage to thrive than in Love's embrace!

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Contributed by Melanie Schurr (Copyright (c)2003 Melanie Schurr) Melanie Schurr is author of "Ecstatic Living Ecstatic Loving: How to have more peace and joy in marriage, and life in general by walking in harmony with God," and "Son Salutations: A refreshing collection of modern inspirations for those who seek God each day." For more information, visit her web page at www.angelfire.com/mi/melschurr